How To Feel At Home In Your Body

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Most of us live with a sense of not really inhabiting our body fully.  We want things to change about our body or about our health before we will actually want to be in it.  Or we have some judgement against it, or even disdain for it, on some level.

We feel, subconsciously maybe, that our body is against us. We can feel that it’s too damaged by health issues to truly cherish. We have a half hearted sense of tolerating our bodies for the time being.

No!

You aren’t settling for that!

Your body, in exactly the condition it is in, is allowing you to have a living experience on this earth!  It’s the only way you are present, right here and right now.  Your body has faithfully kept you alive every day of your entire existence, no matter what condition it is in.

Until you can full embrace living in your body, you can’t really enjoy living life itself.  If you are holding your breath, waiting for changes to happen before you will appreciate the body you are in, then you are holding yourself detached from it.

And if you are in detached holding pattern like that, it’s very hard to allow new healing in.  You have to allow yourself to sink into this blessed body you have and draw your energy through it… not away from it.

Today let’s appreciate the job it’s done for us so far — knowing that we are not at the end result, knowing that health is constantly evolving for us — and just appreciating the millions of things our body is doing right, right in this moment.

 

 

 

This quick healing meditation I am sharing with you today is a very easy way to feel safe deeply inhabiting your own body.

Let’s not wait for perfect wellbeing before we live inside of our bodies.  Let’s commit to the fact that we are living this imperfect existence and having these imperfect experiences.  Let’s enjoy the healing and the path towards well- being, instead of just glorifying an imagined perfect ending and waiting for that.

Life is coming to you through this body you have.  It is safe to enjoy it.  It is safe to come back to your body again and again and again with this simple healing technique.

You want to be here.

You are committed to this lifetime, this experience.

Let’s send that message all the way through your body, so every single cell in your entire being is aware of this and you feel deeply connected to this precious vessel that is holding your soul, right here and right now.

Click on the short, 2 minute video below and I will walk you through feeling safe in your own body.

Or, in case the video does not show up correctly in the newsletter, simply click here to hop directly over to the video on TikTok or click here to watch it on YouTube.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I find that this meditation, and really all meditations, are easier to sink into and maintain if I am grounded while I do it.

I love being outside, connecting to the earth, enjoying that feeling of the tension in my muscles draining, my mood lifting, and my stress levels falling when I rest.

Have you ever felt the complete surrender of being totally docked on our planet, so relaxed that you drift in and out of sleep?  I highly recommend it.

 

 

 

Recently I went outside in the afternoon, closed my eyes for what felt like just a few minutes, and repeated the thought over and over again… “I am at home in my body.”

When I reopened my eyes a few minutes later, it was actually quite a while later and it was turning dusk.  I had never felt so at peace. How long had I been resting and restoring my body through grounding?

I watched the last of the sun’s rays flare gloriously through the leaves of the trees and felt the grass all around me.  I thought to myself — why do I not do this every single day?

I decided to paint this experience, to remind myself to just walk straight out that door and touch the earth if I am feeling stressed out, hurried, overwhelmed, anxious, or just disconnected from my body in any way.

Here is what I came up with, I thought I would share it with you here:

 

Home

 

To reconnect, it’s as simple as docking yourself to the earth, feeling at home in your body, and letting go.

If you could use a reminder to too, I painted this painting for you.

Here is how I did it:

 

 

 

I set up my paints, palette and a canvas in my little art studio space.

 

 

 

A blank canvas is intimidating.  So I started easy, with the pink colors of dusk in the sky.

 

 

 

I added the trees around the top and put the base layer down for the grass around me, curving it to give that delightful drowsy feeling of resting on the earth, grounded, with muscles releasing all tension.

 

 

 

I added a bunch of bokeh spots to the background, and at this point I feel like I ruined it.

I know I have a point like this with every painting I’ve ever painted (click here to see some more of my artwork) so I just keep painting.

 

 

 

I add many layers of grass swirling all around.

 

 

 

 

Now it’s time to paint the rays of light coming through the trees.

I’ve never painted anything like this before so I take a big breath and just go for it.

 

 

 

I add three more bokeh to the foreground, coming right up to me as I awaken in the grass.

Here is the final result, I titled the painting:

 

Home

 

 

It is a gallery wrapped canvas, here is what it looks like from the sides:

 

 

 

 

 

And of course I signed it in the corner:

 

 

You can find out more about this painting right here if you like!

 

To feeling at home in your body, right here, right now.

And letting the healing support of grounding allow you to sink more deeply into that precious body of yours.

xoxox, Laura

 

When You’re Struggling to Listen to Your Intuition… I’ve Got You

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Today I am sharing an interview I recently did for the fabulous Rachel Molendo… she features this interview on her podcast: The Fill Your Cup Podcast.

Honestly I do interviews all the time and I rarely share them here, because they usually focus on grounding, which repeats much of the same information that I already share with you here on my blog.

But this one is different.

In this podcast I share TONS of information that I’ve never shared in an interview before, including exactly why I left conventional medicine, and exactly why I feel intuitive guidance is so important to include when you are making a major life decision.

If you are wanting to know more about how you can listen to your own intuition (or to just get to know me a little bit better!) I hope you will join me in listening to this podcast.

In it Rachel and I talk about:

  • Why I left a successful career as a conventional Medical Doctor

  • Advice for how to leave a job or situation that doesn’t feel right for you

  • What I experienced after I left my medical career and how I stayed true to my journey in the face of criticism

  • Ways that I practice listening to my intuition (you can do it too!)

  • A little on grounding and how grounding can help you find your center

  • How we are energetically connected to the earth and why this matters

  • How living intuitively can truly deepen your happiness

Lots of hand’s on examples and practices that I will run you through on how to silence the brain and listen to the intuitive heart center that I know you absolutely have:

 

When You’re Struggling to Listen to Your Intuition – Dr. Laura Koniver, MD

 

 

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I recently got some criticism for always linking to a healing tool or a class at the end of each blog post… resources where you can go deeper with the information I present in that healing article.

I felt very sad about that because I provide tons and tons of free content — literally thousands of healing articles, interviews, YouTube videos, podcasts, tiktoks, worksheets, ebooks and more… that are all free free free!  In fact, I actually spend the majority of my day creating free content to help uplift others.  I truly don’t want you to feel that I’m always trying to sell you something.  I deeply apologize if this is how it feels at times with me always sharing a link or two for folks that want to go deeper.

Everything I offer comes from a very strong desire to support you in ways that I wish I had been supported.

  • Damn, if I had had just ONE SINGLE CLASS in med school on how to include intuition when helping patients through their healing journey, I could have been so much of a better physician from the jump.
  • If I had had just ONE PERSON in my life encouraging me to drop into my heart space when making big life decisions, I could have felt so much less anxious than I have for the past (almost!) 5 decades of living.
  • If I could have had just ONE CLASS to join into the help me quiet my overactive, overthinking mind and center instead into my gut knowings, I could have avoided so much of the trauma I have been through in my life… and I could have stopped my energy from getting drained over and over and over again by the world around me.

So I want that for you — I want to offer a group where you feel seen, supported and lovingly guided, and that’s why I took months to create an Intuition Online Class, where I can go step by step through the process of you opening to your own unique intuitive gifts.

Yes, you absolutely do have them.  I’ll show you how to find your intuition, hear your intuition, and feel empowered — instead of drained — by being empathetically intune to the world around you.

Join me right here, we start in just a few weeks.

 

To your healthy, vibrant and totally unique soul energy…

xoxoxo, Laura

The Effects of EMFs On The Human Body & The Natural Antidote (+ Free Printable)

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This is a fundamental truth in medicine: the basis of how our body functions is through it’s conductivity.

Every single cell in your body is conductive, every single organelle inside of each cell, every single cell membrane, the extracellular fluid around each cell, the intracellular fluid inside of each cell… yep, it’s all conductive.

Which is why grounding is so powerful — the moment one single cell in your body touches the earth, this amazing conductivity grounds your entire body from head to toe, just like flipping on a light switch — in one instant — ahhh…. you are grounded.

But exactly what makes our body grounded — the fact that we are  highly conductive — is why we need to protect that exquisite conductivity, and also explains why you may literally feel the affects of ambient EMF fields around you.

 

 

 

 

Everything from your thoughts to your feelings to your sensory experiences to your heartbeat to your breath to your speech to your digestion to every blink of your eyes is all only possible because you are conductive.

So while natural earth EMFs soothe and heal you, bathing your conductive body in the supportive energy field of the earth, manmade EMFs disrupt and sicken you, artificially imposing polarized disruptive radiation fields around you.

Many people — I’d say maybe even most people — feel uncomfortable sensations when they are in the presence of strong EMF fields.

Do you notice you ever feel these symptoms after being on your computer, or cell phone, or near your router, or in an area with wifi?

  • stinging or tingling
  • headache
  • decreased concentration
  • vertigo/dizziness
  • disorientation
  • tinnitus/ringing in the ears
  • skin sensitivity or reactions
  • restlesness
  • insomnia
  • mood changes, including anxiety or depression
  • fatigue
  • heart palpitations
  • muscle pain/tension

 

 

 

 

Recent medical research has found this to be true — millions of people are affected by electrohypersensitivty and in population-based surveys, the prevalence of electrohypersensitivity (EHS) ranges from 1.5% of the population (found in Sweden) up to 13.3% (found in Taiwan.)

Even going with the lowest commonly agreed upon prevalence of perception (0.1% of the population, or 7 million people) this is roughly the same worldwide incidence of many other illnesses that no one would ever brush off…  a quick look through the WHO Global Burden of Disease report shows that this incidence is similar to the incidence of stroke, for example.

Electrosensitivity is more common than congestive heart failure.

It is more common than Parkinson’s disease.

It is more common than breast, lung, prostate and colon cancer combined.

So yeah, let’s not ignore this huge population of electrosensitive individuals and instead let’s address the fact that we are all highly conductive (whether we feel symptoms from it or not) and take steps to protect our conductive health.

How?  It’s simple.

 

 

 

 

The natural opposite of man-made EMFs are the natural earth made EMFs… and you can easily access these through grounding.

Grounding helps mitigate the effects of EMFs and rebalance your conductive health.  It gives you results you can feel… grounding helps to:

  • boost mood
  • decrease anxiety
  • deepen sleep
  • decrease pain
  • decrease inflammation
  • decrease blood pressure
  • boost cardiac function
  • decrease muscle tension
  • improve digestion
  • improve immune function
  • and on and on… pretty much the exact opposite effect that manmade EMFs have on our body

 

Today I want to share a free printable for you.  I created this for my electrosensitivity class, and I’m sharing it freely with you here today.  So be sure to take advantage of this and forward it to everyone you know who could benefit from seeing directly how manmade EMFs and natural grounding are connected and why!

Simply click the button below for a free printable version that you can study and even tape to your door, reminding you to go outside daily to get grounded!

 

 

 

 

Manmade EMFs and Earthing EMFs are Yin & Yang to each other — each one affecting our body because of our highly conductive living tissues.

So today, and every day, head outside for at least a few minutes to rebalance your conductive health.

It doesn’t have to be for long — grounding is as instantaneous as flipping on a light switch.  When you turn on a light, the entire room is illuminated — and that’s exactly what happens when one cell in your body becomes grounded: your entire body becomes grounded.

While there are cumulative benefits over time to grounding, there is really no time that is too little for grounding, either.  I never want you to miss an opportunity to be grounded just because it’s might only be for 30 seconds while you stop at a street crossing, or lean against a tree while you take a break during lunchtime, or when you stop for a second to pull a weed out from a garden bed.

 

  • Within seconds your skin surface conductance has changed throughout your entire body and your muscle tension has decreased. 
  • As seconds turn to minutes, your brain and vagal tone have gotten a calming boost from grounding, and you might notice pain decreases and mood lifts. 
  • Over time, as minutes turn to hours, your metabolic processes get a boost and your circulation (which supports every single organ system in your body) is running more smoothly. 
  • Grounding day after day means nighttime sleep is more restorative, stress hormones normalize, inflammation decreases, and health benefits begin to accumulate, often resulting in noticeable health benefits on a large scale.

 

Grounding daily to reset the conductive health of your body is essential — it is not enough simply to remove EMF insults, you must replace those toxic frequencies with the natural healing frequency from the earth.

Luckily, the human body is an incredibly resilient force of nature and we naturally go back to vibrant health when we allow our body to bounce back by giving it time to heal between insults.  Often by making a few small changes, you can feel relief — literally overnight.

The basis of life is a natural ability to repair and recover and a natural adaptability as well.

Your body simply needs time and space, away from a constant toxic onslaught, to do so.

This is even more crucial for those of us who are electrosensitive.

I truly hope today’s article helps to reassure you exactly what you are feeling when you notice symptoms of electrosensitivity, as well as get you started with one simple solution to help you feel better than you’ve ever felt: get grounded outside.

 

 

 

Need more support?

If your in person physician is not able or willing to offer guidance on how to use conductivity to help heal you (grounding) and how to protect your conductivity to minimize damage (electrosensitivity) I am here to help.

In a two weeks I am running a class to teach you everything you need to know to protect your conductive health and lower your EMF exposures.

I don’t know why we are so late to formally diagnose and treat EHS in the USA, but throughout Europe and in Canada you can get a formal diagnosis and even disability support, including letters from your physician to request employers and schools to accommodate your needs (and your children’s needs) to reduce EMF exposure and safeguard your health.

Physicians can write:

  • letters requiring employers to provide you with a hardwired ethernet connection
  • recommendations to your employer to have you work in a place that is furthest from the wifi router
  • letters to school educators to seat children in the class seat that is furthest from router
  • letters to school educators to create a cell phone free classroom, with all cell phones put on airplane mode at the beginning of class
  • letter to school educators requesting they allow students intermittent times to go outside and ground to the natural energy of the earth to help offset EHS symptoms

You don’t have to wait for your local health care professional to get on board with diagnosing and treating electrosensitivity, because I will be your healthcare advocate and help you.  I developed a class to teach you everything you need to know about your conductive health — including both positive ways to boost your conductive health through safe grounding practices, as well as ways to protect your conductive health through lowering your EMF exposures.

In this online class I will even walk you through how to get your own, in person physician comfortable with diagnosing EHS and writing those recommendations listed above on a Rx for you to hand to your employer or you child’s teacher.

 

 

 

It’s absolutely possible to be EHS and safeguard your health, while still living in the modern world.  I walk you through exactly how to do it, starting with a self assessment tool that will help you figure out if you are electrohypersensitive (EHS) and walk you, step by step, through all of your living spaces to making them safer for you and your entire family.

Plus I give you tons of encouragement and additional tools to boost your health, decrease the reactivity and inflammation in your body, as well free printables and worksheets that you can keep forever, as well as lots of medical literature to validate exactly what you are experiencing and why.

No longer will you be brushed aside and told that your legitimate, valid ability to perceive electrical currents and EMF fields imposed on your body are simply a “detox” to ignore.  Nope.  In this 7 day online class we will go over together:

  • Day 1: What is electrosensitivity and how to assess if you are electrosensitive
  • Day 2: Removing the exposures you can remove (I’ll walk you through it!)
  • Day 3: Reducing the exposures you can further reduce (let’s do it together!)
  • Day 4: Shielding from any remaining exposures: key concepts & actions to take
  • Day 5: Grounding to rebalance your conductive health with natural earth EMFs
  • Day 6: Boosting your body’s resiliency to mitigate the symptoms you may already be feeling
  • Day 7: How to talk to your physician about further in person diagnosing & treatment of EHS
  • BONUS: Custom recorded class Q&A session

 

Reserve your spot today and take action to protect your well being (and forward this to your family and loved ones so they can take it with you!)

Taking this with an accountability buddy is a great idea so you can encourage each other and stick with it.  And I’ll be your ultimate accountability partner, walking beside you the entire way:

 

 

It absolutely doesn’t have to be overwhelming, I’ll break it down for you into easily actionable steps that will leave you feeling empowered, not scared.  Reserve your spot today before class enrollment is full!  I cap this class to so that I have time to answer every single question from every single participant in our class Q&A, so grab a spot here while they are still available.

To your incredibly resilient health!

xoxo, Laura Koniver, MD

 

 

How Grounding Helps Protect Your Cardiac Function For A Lifetime

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I painted this artwork out of a page in my old med school anatomy book!

 

 

Last week I wrote an article for you outlining how stress and trauma increases your risk for heart disease, but that this increased risk was reversible.  This week, let me give you one of the best tools I know for supporting heart health — that is through grounding.

Our hearts emit the strongest electromagnetic field of our entire body… thousands of times stronger than the electromagnetic field of our brains!  The human heart’s electromagnetic field is measured at about 100,000 times stronger electrically (and 5,000 times stronger magnetically) than the human brain.

This electomagnetic frequency that pulses out from your heart center is 100% in sync with and resonant with the Earth’s Heartbeat, the Schumann Frequency, and this is no coincidence, this is our natural design.  In the video below, I give you a very quick review of the medical literature that suggests exactly how connecting to the earth — and getting our heartbeat resonant with the earth’s heartbeat — supports our cardiovascular function.

From increasing our heart rate variability (the key to the health and resiliency of your heart function) to increasing the circulatory perfusion of our capillaries (the key to getting oxygen and nutrients to all the organs in your body) to decreasing our risk of blood clots (which reduces our risk of heart attack and stroke,) the earth is essential to keeping your cardiovascular system functioning well.

Just click on the video below (newsletter subscribers that don’t see the video embedded below can click here to watch this video on YouTube) and in less than 3 minutes I will walk you through the science behind this healing support:

 

 

 

 

Below, I walk you through the studies I mention in this video and give you links so that you can read them yourself. The four major ways grounding supports your cardiovascular system are:

 


 

 

 

 1. Boosted Circulation

 

The first study I want to tell you about was a double-blinded, placebo-controlled study of 40 patients.  All study participants had grounding electrodes connected to their feet, and while half of them were properly grounded for one hour, the other half were sham-grounded for one hour, with a cord that was not actually grounded.  The blood flow through the study participants’ facial skin capillaries was imaged continuously, in real time, for the entire hour.

Within minutes, all the grounded patients had significantly increased capillary blood flow in their facial skin, and the patients who were ungrounded had no change in their facial blood flow.  This is a real, nearly instantaneous physiologic change in the circulatory system all the way up from the grounded foot to the face.

This has ramifications for the beauty industry and the anti-aging industry, since enhanced blood flow through the skin in your face (and all over your body for that matter) helps stimulate fresh skin tissue and reverse signs of aging from the damage of toxins, additives, preservatives, makeups, environmental exposures, etc… that you are routinely exposed to day in and day out.

If you want to see the enhanced blood flow for yourself, I highly recommend that you watch the film “Heal For Free   — which you can watch right here on YouTube.  In this film, you can see first hand how a patient’s blood flow in the back of their eye changes dramatically after grounding through the bottom of the foot, just like the patients in the study above.  

This is a really beautiful way to capture what’s happening in the capillaries because the blood flow in the back of the retina looks very similar under the imaging study as it does in your skin, and all through every organ in your body. v The patient in this film had macular degenerative disease in the back of his eye, which is a disease that is usually irreversible, yet with grounding there was a significantly enhanced blood flow even to the damaged macula of his eye. 

The retinal specialist was in shock, never having seen an increase in blood flow through the retina once the blood flow had decreased… yet he was able to see significant improvement to the macula while the patient was grounded, rendering the physician almost speechless.  This response — of increased blood flow through capillaries while grounding — confirms the result of the original study in skin tissue and verifies that the same benefits of increased blood flow are found throughout the body, not just in the skin.

 


 

 

 

2.  Decreased Blood Viscosity

 

In this double-blinded, placebo-controlled study, researchers studied 28 participants who performed strenuous yoga exercises for an hour straight — half were grounded through a grounded yoga mat and half were sham-grounded through non-grounded yoga mats.  Participants did not know which yoga mats were grounded and which were not.  During the study, they cycled through a series of 10 strenuous yoga exercises over and over again, while their blood viscosity was measured.

Researchers found that the viscosity (the thickness) of the blood was decreased, so the blood actually ran more smoothly through their body and to their muscles while in use.  And not only did it run more smoothly through their muscles while their muscles were actively engaged and strenuously working hard, the blood flow was enhanced both systolically and diastolically.  That means when the heart was squeezing, the blood flow was enhanced and also when it was at rest between beats, the blood flow was still enhanced.

Decreasing blood viscosity right when you’re exercising, right when you need it, right when your muscles are contracting, speeds healing and repair and buffers any strain that’s being imposed on your muscles as you’re actively using them. (For more on how grounding supports muscle function, read this blog post. )

 

 


 

3.  Improved Heart Rate Variability

 

Heart rate variability (HRV) is one of the most important indicators of heart health.  HRV measures the variability between your heart beats, and an increased HRV is a fantastic indicator that your heart is healthy and is functioning well, being receptive, responsive, tuned into your autonomic nervous system… taking in information about the environment and the stressors that you’re under and responding directly to them.

There’s an innate connection and inter-responsiveness between your heart rate and your environment. This beautiful measurement in the rhythm and variation of your heart beat gives it a chance to respond to how much oxygen you need at any given moment, how much blood flow you need in your muscles or organs at any given moment.  When the HRV decreases (as it does during times of stress, after trauma, after a heart attack, after a heart transplant, in premature infants, in PTSD patients and much more) the heart reverts to a robotic beat with less variation.  It’s no longer in a relaxed, flexible state where you can change and respond to and adapt to your environment.

Instead, a low HRV means your heart is in robotic survival mode and this actually has been shown to decrease lifespan. It’s an indication of an increased mortality rate and heart failure risk, so physicians look at the HRV (particularly after a heart attack, heart transplant and premature birth) because it predicts the risk of death.  They also look at the HRV to predict a positive outcome as well, for example, there is a better prognosis in cancer patients with an increased HRV.   So a higher HRV enhances long term survivability, enhances recovery from major diseases, predicts a longer lifespan and decreases stress and wear and tear on the heart.

In the yoga grounding study mentioned above, participants who were grounded for 40 minutes during strenuous yoga exercises universally had their HRV increased, but the moment they stopped grounding, their HRV went back to baseline. This was statistically significant with every single patient, so when they were grounded, their HRV was enhanced, and when they were ungrounded, it wasn’t. 

Researchers followed that study with an even more recent study on the HRV in some of the most vulnerable human beings of all — premature infants in NICU incubators.  And here too, grounding boosted markers of survival, including HRV for these neonatal infants, confirming the results found in the original study.

 


 

 

 

 

4.  Less Red Blood Cell Clumping

 

The red blood cells that are in your blood have a connection and a responsiveness to being grounded that is awesome. It’s amazing to see how one system can be impacted by grounding, improved in multiple ways… the heart works better, the blood vessels deliver blood more easily, the viscosity of the blood goes down so it flows more freely, and now studies tell us that the red blood cells themselves are less likely to clot.  Here’s why:

The zeta potential represents the electrical potential on the outer membrane of your red blood cells. The more negative the zeta potential is, the more likely your blood cells are to flow smoothly. When the zeta potential increases, your blood cells are more likely to clot, clump together and aggregate, increasing the risk for stroke, heart attack and other clotting diseases.

So researchers measured the zeta potential of 10 patients, both before and after grounding them for two hours.  Ungrounded, the zeta potential of red blood cells was higher, making red blood cells more likely to clump together.  After two hours of grounding the zeta potential significantly decreased, allowing the red blood cells to flow freely and decrease the risk of clotting.  That’s really the goal of aspirin therapy, which more than one-third of all adults (and four out of five patients with heart disease) routinely take to reduce the risk of clots.  Grounding does this naturally… allowing blood to flow more smoothly, red blood cells to have a decreased zeta potential, heart rate variability to be enhanced, and the flow through the entire vasculature system to be boosted.

 

 

 

 

 

Want to read more grounding medical studies?

I’ve got an entire resource page for you right here that lists all the latest medical research on grounding as well as tons of free articles and videos I’ve created for you to help you understand what the studies are showing as well as actionable tips to incorporate grounding into your own life:

 

 

Grounding Medical Studies

 

 

Want to bring grounding into your daily life?

It’s way easier than you think, even if you live in a city, have no yard, live where there are tons of outdoor pests, where the weather is super cold, or even where it is super hot.

I highly recommend you start by simply reading a book I wrote for you on the immense health benefits of grounding and hundreds of ideas to get grounded outside no matter what the season or where you live:

 

 

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Want to ground indoors?

You absolutely can, but be sure to choose eco-friendly, ethically hand crafted, made-in-the-USA grounding tools that are non-toxic and biodegradable.

I highly recommend against using synthetic, non-breathable, vinyl “leatherette” grounding tools that are mass factory produced overseas and definitely not comfortable for your skin.  Plus, these plastic products will sit in a landfill for over 500 years… not a great way to thank our planet when we are reaching out to it to support our health.

I won’t carry those on my website, instead I recommend eco-friendly, environmentally conscious materials like hemp and organic cotton, and superior quality conductive elements like stainless steel.  This creates the longest lasting, most eco-friendly and non-toxic grounding tools on the planet, which are shipped with non-toxic, biodegradable packaging.  Healthy for you, healthy for the earth!

You can find these organic, eco-ethically crafted grounding tools right here:

 

 

 

 

To your natural, resilient, rebounding and adaptable health, and to the earth we all live on.  It’s a very beautiful healing relationship, and falling in love with our planet will not only change how you care for the world around you, but it will also directly boost your own health in the process.

xoxox, Laura

 

Heart Disease In Women As A Response To Trauma

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Today I have a very interesting new study to share with you, published just this year on March 17, 2021 in JAMA Cardiology.  Most studies on heart disease focus on the male population, so this one really caught my eye — specifically focusing on the link between heart disease in women with a history of trauma.

Looking at almost 400,000 women, researchers identified women diagnosed with PTSD and matched them to age and cardiovascular risk correlated female controls with no history of PTSD.  They then looked at ischemic heart disease outcomes, including new onset coronary artery disease, angina or heart attack (myocardial infarction) over a 5 year follow up period.

Researchers found that a history of PTSD in younger females increased the risk of developing subsequent heart disease by almost 60%.  Yuck.  A history of trauma increased the risk of lasting heart health issues long term.

To me, this study serves to underscore how very strongly our mental and emotional state affect our well being.  But you already knew that if you subscribe to my newsletter, because years ago I told you about a medical study published in Lancet in 2017 that suggests why there is a direct correlation between stress and heart attack.

 

 

 

It turns out, increased brain activity in the area of emotional processing (the amygdala) directly increases the risk of cardiovascular events.  This study was the first to show that increased amygdala activity in humans strongly predicts cardiovascular events such as stroke, heart attack and angina.

In other words, the emotional center of our brain is connected to our heart health.  That’s because of the amygdala.  The amygdala is responsible for processing emotions, survival instincts and memory.  And that literally sums up how stress feels: it’s an increased emotional load, a feeling of being overwhelmed when trying to navigate a stressful situation, and traumatic memories from the past that all get linked up with traumatic present experiences — which come together to increase the metabolic activity in your amygdala.

 

The Study (published Jan 11, 2017 in Lancet):

  • 293 patients underwent full body PET/CT scans at the Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, MA
  • Resting metabolic activity in the amygdala, bone marrow and arterial walls were measured
  • Increased resting metabolic activity in the amygdala was strongly correlated with increased bone marrow activity, increased arterial inflammation, and increased risk of cardiovascular events (stroke, MT, or angina) during an average follow up period of 3 1/2 years.
  • In a follow up study, researchers examined 13 patients with PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder) who underwent PET scans and filled out a Stress Scale Questionnaire (PSS-10)
  • They found that high levels of self rated stress correlated with increase in amygdala activity, higher levels of arterial inflammation, and higher levels of the blood inflammatory marker: C-reactive protein.

 

Based on these studies, researchers now believe that it is actually the brain activity of the amygdala (and emotional stress in particular) that links stressful events with cardiovascular disease — causing increased hemopoietic tissue activity (in the bone marrow, where blood is made) and increased vascular inflammation, both which directly increase cardiovascular disease and up the risk of stroke, heart attack and angina.

Researchers suggest that it is this increased activation of the emotional amgydala area of the brain that raises the risk for heart disease and stroke.  So chronic emotional stress raises the baseline metabolic rate of this particular area of the brain, which strongly and directly raises the risk factor for cardiovascular events.

The link between stress and heart attack, stroke, and angina is so pronounced that researchers are advocating stress levels to be considered an independent risk factor for heart disease, along with other cardiac risk factors such as age, smoking history, and family history of heart disease.

 

 

But the good news is this: treat the stress and you can potentially prevent heart attack in the first place.  A study published on April 5, 2016 in Circulation suggests that this actually has real world applications.  Researchers followed over 150 patients who were assigned to have cardiac rehab care following a cardiac event, and found that by adding stress management skills into their cardiac rehab program they were able to slash the rate of future cardiac events in a 5 year follow up period in half!

So if reducing stress reduces the risk of subsequent heart attack by 50%, now we know why:  stressful brain activity is directly correlated with cardiovascular events.  Reduce the stress response in the brain, reduce heart disease in the body.

On an energetic level, as an intuitive physician I can confirm this..,. you can protect the longevity of your heart on a medical, spiritual, emotional and energetic level if you simply release the barriers stress has placed around your heart.  To help show you this, I tore a page out of my old med school anatomy book and painted it for you:

 

 

(this original artwork has sold.)

 

 

We have a heart to pump blood (and thereby deliver oxygen and nutrients) to every part of our body.  It’s function is absolutely critical to life.  The heart is composed of a mass of muscle cells who’s function is to work together to deliver the vital nutrients, oxygen and fluids in our blood to our entire organism.

But what is the one thing your heart needs in order to do all this, in order to function at all?  Flexibility.

The heart’s strength is it’s flexibility.

If your heart is boxed in, walled up, protected… it’s not flexible at all.  It’s brittle.  It can’t work.  It absolutely needs to have flexibility — it’s walls broken down, removed — in order to maintain it’s strength.

This is exactly what happens with our heart physically.  As a response to chronic inflammation, our blood vessels become coated with plaques (atherosclerosis) but these plaques, instead of strengthening our vessels, actually strangulate them.

The more coated, the thicker the walls, the higher the risk of heart attack.

The heart is pure muscle, pure power, pure strength… and it uses it’s core strength, which is the strength of flexibility, to function.  It uses muscular contractions to deliver it’s heartsong… oxygen, nutrition, nurturing, love, joy, and freedom… to the entire body.  This is the power of the heart, when it is full of love, infused with life, flexible, bending and free.

If your heart is hardened, if you are protecting yourself by building walls, if you are living life defensively, how can your heart spread joy and health freely to your entire body?

Your heart can not feed your body if it is strangled by the walls you have built.  Lightness, joy, love… these are the emotional vibrations that keep your heart flexible and strong.  These are the antidotes to any hardening of your heart you might be feeling.

Break down the immobile walls that we naturally build as we protect ourselves along the path of our life.  Protecting ourselves comes at a price.  Building walls brings a brittleness, a false strength that can suffocate that which you are trying to protect.

With your own flexibility gone, you lose your power.  Far more powerful is the heart that can open fully and contract fully… that can feel fully.

So the first step, find what barriers you have built.

Allow them to soften.

Your ability to yield to life and it’s inevitable pleasures and joy and sorrows and pain, with as little resistance as possible,  will make you stronger.

If your heart is feeling brittle, limited, stiff, hardened, or empty, nurture your own heart first.  Begin with flexibility.  Allow your thoughts to expand, give yourself the flexibility to allow multiple points of view, the vulnerability to be hurt, and the strength to bounce back even stronger.

Give yourself a little love.  A little softness.  A little forgiveness.  A little flexibility.

Flexibility is what makes your heart strong.  Powerful flexibility of the heart is what feeds your entire body, infusing it with life sustaining nutrition, oxygen, and fluids.

Here is another artwork I created using my same med school anatomy book, this time showing you the pathway towards restoring heart health.  I added one of my favorite Rumi quotes to it to remind us to focus on flexibility and openness to restore heart health:

 

 

 

 

So, with the focus on flexibility and embracing our core strength by being open and pliable… where can our hearts take us?

To the very opposite of being constricted, walled in, brittle… expansion, pure expansion!

Our hearts are the center of our ability to expand… expand beyond just ourselves, and beyond just our limited experience, and expand beyond just this situation.

We can feel our connection to others, and our eternal nature.  Our heart center expands outwards in a powerful, measurable energy field, right from the center of our being.  In fact, our heart’s energy field is actually bigger than our brain’s measurable energy field.

You can literally feel this in your body.  Have you ever sat, focusing on something that made you so happy that you literally felt your heart grow larger and larger and larger still?

Have you ever felt that your chest was going to explode, your heart energy got so big?

Have you ever felt your heart vibration reach past your chest, past your body, reach into the space around, to the people around you, to the universe around you?

It feels so good, and it feels so good because it is the healthy state of being connected to all of the energy around you.

You are dropping the limited barriers of what defines *you* and reaching out to *all that is*… in this state, you are pure, positive joy.  In this state, you have blown up all the barriers around your heart, the ones that you built to *protect you* that actually harm you… they are dissolved and meaningless.

You are greater than this one moment in time, this one body, this one lifetime.

Through your heart, you can expand past any problem, any limitation.  Through your heart, you can connect to all that is physical and non-physical around you.  Through your heart, you can *feel* the eternal connections that you can’t physically see with your eyes.

 

 

 

Your heart is an amazing electrically activated organ, designed to pump nutrition and health throughout your entire body.  It’s designed to pump joy and love throughout your entire being.  It’s entire function is dependent on it’s ability to translate energetic impulses into a functional push of the blood throughout your body.

But do not limit your heart to what it physically can do.  Do not regard it as a piece of muscle designed to transport blood. Instead, really *feel* the entire purpose of it’s design.  It is the one organ, more than any other, that connects your entire body together — infusing every single organ system with life giving nutrients.  It reaches every tissue, every surface, every organ.  Through it’s immense meshwork of vasculature, your heart is one of complete and utter connection.

Of expansion.

Physically expanding to reach every single cell in your body… and emotionally, expanding your life force from the core of you to the universe around you.

To strengthen and expand your feelings of health and joy, remember back to those experiences where you feel your heart expanding, and seek to find those more often.

I felt them most intensely as a new mom, holding my babies.  I can bring back that feeling any time I wish by remembering what it was like to hold them in my arms.  To love on them.  To take care of them.  To adore them.

Recall your own times when your have felt your heart swell and reach for that feeling as often as you can.  In this state you are realizing that the walls you build around your body and mind are no longer helpful, but instead, are constricting.

 

 

 

 

This picture was taken over a dozen years ago, my kids are now all grown up and off to college… yet when I sit in appreciation for my children I can literally still feel my heart pound against my chest just like it did when they were little… expanding through my entire body, then out of my body, pulsing into the universe and connecting me to a greater love.

It is in these moments that I *know* I am tapped in to something more than just myself. And it is in these moments that I know my connection to my children is eternal.

Do what you can, today, to find a moment like this and savor it.

You have just found your heartsong.

Every moment you spend in that state, you spend in the state of pure and absolute health.

 

 

 

 

If you have built up walls around your heart as a response to trauma, you are not alone.  This is totally normal and you absolutely can release them.  I can help you.

If you want more guidance on releasing the damage that past traumas have caused to your health, please join into my upcoming Trauma Resiliency class. I designed this course to help protect the longevity and health of your body, so that you can move forward with resiliency instead of holding on to wounds you have endured.   As today’s medical literature reveals, by releasing stress you can literally protect your body’s health — even reducing your risk of heart attack.

You can actually become healthier after trauma if you simply know how to process and release it instead of ignoring it.  I’m right here to help you with this.  Sign up here to reserve your spot now, class starts on September 6th

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Offered with much love…

xoxox, Laura

How Grounding Mitigates Trauma And Protects Your Body From Long Term Stress

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Living with stress has serious long term implications on our health.  But it doesn’t have to.

It’s natural for our bodies to go through times of trauma and stress and then rebound to full health.  There are lots of things you can do to mitigate stress and trauma and prevent them from leaving lasting imprints on your body that ultimately deteriorates your health.

Which is important, because if we don’t release the traumas and stressors that we experience, our cells, organs, tissues and physical body as a whole literally changes.

This is the study of epigenetics — and I’ve seen it play out in clinical medicine over and over again:  trauma governs what genes are turned on and turned off, how genes are expressed and used, and literally changes the way the human body functions.

 

 

 

 

If you are feeling the physical effects of trauma or prolonged stress, please know it’s not in your head — your body is literally physically different after prolonged stress and trauma.  This is normal and reversible.

I’m so aware of how acute and prolonged stress affects our health that I’ve written many previous articles on this for you, such as:

 

Today I’m specifically talking about one of the easiest ways to mitigate trauma and stress as it occurs, and that is through grounding.

Watch this quick 8 min video below to see exactly why grounding is in a unique position to erase stress from your physical tissues, and why I feel that grounding is an absolutely mandatory part of a trauma healing plan:

 

Trauma Recovery With Grounding

(click the link above to watch the video directly on YouTube)

 

 

 

Here is an overview of what I say in the video above:

Acute stress causes a physical reaction:

  • your muscles become tense
  • your heart rate is elevated and circulation is constricted
  • your digestion shuts down and mouth gets dry
  • your adrenaline & cortisol surge
  • your sleep is disrupted

 

Long term this leads to:

  • pain from muscle tension in the form of chronic tension headaches, tooth grinding & TMJ, restless leg syndrome, fibromyalgia and other pain syndromes
  • heart disease, increased risk of heart attack and stroke
  • inflammatory disorders of the gut, malabsorption, heartburn, reflux, irritable bowel
  • an increased risk of autoimmune disorders
  • adrenal fatigue, circadian rhythm disturbance, sex hormone imbalance, even early menopause or menstrual irregularities
  • insomnia, memory problems, structural brain changes

 

Grounding directly addresses these issues, providing you with:

  • a near instantaneous decrease in muscle tension
  • improved heart rate variability (HRV) and enhanced circulation
  • boosted digestion and vagal tone
  • decreased inflammation
  • normalized cortisol levels
  • and deeper, more restorative sleep

 

 

 

If you have ever felt the relief of grounding, then you already know how supportive it can be and how resilient it helps your body feel.  Literally helping to center you no matter what is going on in your life, no matter how stressed out you feel, even in the midst of a panic attack, the earth is waiting out there to center and support you.

It’s so good that it is a crucial component for treating long term pain… if you’d like to hear me talk more about that, you may enjoy this video I recorded several years ago during a medical conference on treating pain:

 

 

 

Why You Are Still In Chronic Pain & 5 Ways To Fix It

 

There are several other key things — beyond grounding — that you can do to release stress and trauma before it triggers PTSD and other traumatic sequela in the body.  I go into each one in depth in my Trauma Resiliency & Recovery online class that starts in three weeks.

If you want to protect your current health from the ill effects of living through the largest pandemic in recent history, you want to be a part of this class.

If the current stress we are under now is triggering old wounds, old scars, bringing up PTSD or other trauma symptoms from past events you have survived… you want to be a part of this class.

In fact, if you notice that you are having a harder time dealing with the stressors that this global pandemic has caused than some of your other friends or loved ones, there is good reason.

If you’ve had a history of trauma, or a history of greater stressors in your life before the coronavirus circled the globe (such as serious illness or injury, death of a loved one, divorce, unemployment, financial struggles, legal troubles, etc…) than recent medical studies prove that this pandemic actually is harder on you than those without a history of trauma.

We’ve known for a while that a history of trauma makes subsequent traumas more likely to cause PTSD:

  •  A study published in 1999 showed that a history of trauma increases the risk of getting PTSD with a subsequent trauma
  • A study published in 2008 backed this up by finding that a history of trauma increases not only the risk of getting PTSD but also the risk of developing depression (Major Depressive Disorder, also known as MDD) when faced with a new trauma.
  • And now, a study published in June 2020  looked at folks with a history of trauma and their response to a natural disaster — a major earthquake that struck the coast of Chile, killing over 500 people and displacing over 800,000 people.  Researchers found that individuals who had 4 or more pre-disaster stressors had a significantly greater chanced of developing PTSD than those with no pre-disaster stressors.

They also found that having even one single predisaster stressor increased the chance of developing depression, and that every single additional predisaster stressor increased the odds of having a major depressive episode significantly higher.

Their conclusion was that having a history of stressors actually gives you stress sensitization, making you more vulnerable to the negative effects of a new trauma (including natural disasters, like our current pandemic) and increasing your risk of mental health issues.

This is particularly important to know in the midst of a pandemic, as it might help explain why naturally you may be feeling more overwhelm in the face of this global crisis than some of your other friends or family members who don’t have a history of stressors or trauma.

While it might make you feel better to know that your history of having major life stressors and traumas makes it completely natural and expected for this pandemic to be hitting you in a deeper way than it is hitting others, you deserve some good news.

Is there good news with trauma?

Actually, yes.

 

 

 

 

The largest meta-analysis to date on trauma recovery (looking at data from over 11,000 relevant medical studies) suggests that the best long term recovery after trauma is simply talking about it, no medication required.

Published in JAMA Psychiatry on June 12, 2019, reasearchers looked at direct comparisons between talk therapy (psychotherapy) and drug therapy (pharmacological treatments) in patients with PTSD.

  • They found that in the long term, talk therapy helped more, being slightly superior to drug therapy both immediately following treatment and in long term follow up.
  • The studies they looked at ranged from 2 months to 6 months long, and this meta-analysis showed there was no advantage to using drugs in recovering from PTSD.
  • This means that drugs are now no longer recommended for first line treatment of trauma, as there is no indication that they are beneficial.

While I am certainly not against the use of medications when they are needed, they should be used sparingly and either short term (as they do not show any long term advantage) or only for patients who don’t find improvement after talk therapy alone.

Be encouraged by this. Because this means that the vast majority of folks can be helped — and helped best — by talking about trauma instead of medicating it away.

Connect with others.  Reach out for help.  Don’t feel like you are going crazy and don’t feel like you must go it alone.

We all have trauma, we all do.  But if your history of trauma is making this pandemic harder on you than on others, you can absolutely get through it.  There is long term benefit from connecting to others and speaking about it.

 

 

 

The medical literature is clear… just communicating about trauma is every bit as healing (or even more healing) than all the best medications we have to treat trauma.

So simply joining a class, talking to a therapist, or connecting with others to heal can be just what you need to feel better than you have ever felt.

And here’s the best part:  those who move through trauma can actually be healthier than those who never went through any trauma at all.

It’s incredible to believe that trauma can actually strengthen your health but it is true.

In my Trauma Resilency & Recovery Class I go over the medical literature that reveals that trauma can actually be adaptive and empowering, and I show you all the tools to use trauma to boost your own health in ways you never could have imagined possible.

 

 

 

I developed this class based on my extensive research into the best of what the medical literature tells us about how to release trauma once and for all and become healthier for it.

No matter what you have gone through, you absolutely do have the ability to rebound from from it and create a new normal and a new health set point.  Everybody does.  Your body naturally wants to bounce back to full and complete wellness… mind, body and spirit.

I’ll give you the tools to get there and walk with you through it.  Class emails come directly into your inbox so that you can start healing, right from the safety and comfort of your own home.  Join this course by clicking right here today.

And check in with others that you love that you know face significant stressors and might benefit from taking this trauma healing class right alongside you.  Forward them this email and have them sign up alongside you.  Together we can find relief.

 

 

 

Moving onwards and upwards…

xoxoxo, Laura


Sudden Loss and Unexpected Grief… Holistic Ways To Help Your Body Find Relief

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I recently became a Death Doula.

You would think as a physician we would be taught in detail about the death and dying process in medical school, but we weren’t.  Not at all.

We were taught how to pronounce someone dead, how to preform advanced life support to try to stave off death, how to sign a death certificate… but never about the intricacies of it: what the body feels and experiences as the soul prepares to leave it, what the dying process looks like, what order the organ systems shut down in and how that looks and feels, how long afterwards it takes for the body to have the soul no longer palpable in it, how to make the process more meaningful for the person transitioning on, how to make the process more meaningful for the loved ones still here, how to care for the body in the immediate hours after death, the meaningful experiences folks who have technically died and then returned to live have to say about the death process, and so much more about the possibilities — and the healing — that go hand in hand with the death experience.  To learn these things, I had to find my own education by other death doulas and death midwives (this one is my fav.)

What I found, is that like most big changes, death brings with it many opportunities to find deeper fulfillment.  I’ve seen many patients greet death with joy, surprise, wonderment, love and even gratitude.  Don’t count out the possibility that death may very well be one of your favorite phases of your life.   If you’d like to read more about my experiences with life after death, read this blog post here.

But of course, for those of us left behind, there is great sorrow and grief.

No one likes to feel separated from those they love most, from those they love even a bit, from those that they had a complicated relationship with, from those they had unresolved issues with… it’s hard to be separate, which is why I feel there is so much joy in the re-connection.  The joining of each of our souls with all the souls that have gone before us.  I am so enamored by the joy that the dying person feels as they reconnect with the vast oneness of it all that I’ve painted it several times for you — this painting sold (although prints are available for you right here)  so I recently painted this new version:

A Soul’s Welcome

 

 

I painted all the beautiful multitude of souls that await you, that have gone first, that surround you.  I truly believe no one ever dies alone, no matter what it looked like on earth as they passed.  There is great love surrounding us all and we see this most clearly as the journey towards the death transition unfolds.

 

 

So I added a golden, gilded pathway… painted on with gold paint so that it shines and lights the way.  I believe walking this golden path is what the death process looks and feels like — all that is needed from us is to relax into it, moment by moment stepping forward into what is, what awaits, what appears.

If you like this painting you can find the original artwork right here, I’d love to send it to you.

If you’ve experienced a sudden loss then you know first hand how it knocks your feet right out from under you.  Whether from the death of a loved one, a trauma, a job loss or divorce, severe illness, surgery, or any other unexpected change, it can be hard to endure… both emotionally and physically.

Below I offer some concrete help for specific grief symptoms, such as depression, anxiety, fatigue, sadness and decreased appetite.   I am also running — for the only time in 2021 so please join me! — my Trauma Recovery & Resiliency online class next month.  Sign up here and let’s get you feeling centered again.

Meanwhile, here are some ideas of holistic things you can do to support your journey through the transformation of grief:

Holistic Ideas For Moving Through Grief Symptoms:

 


 

1. Depressed Mood

 

Feeling down or depressed while grieving should remind you to prioritize TLC for your body, and give yourself plenty of restorative time to allow it to lift.  Here are some holistic ways to help the process along:

  • Eat chocolate —  Yep, it’s true.  Published on July 29, 2019 in Depression and Anxiety, researchers found that dark chocolate consumption significantly reduced a patients chance of feeling depressive symptoms for a 24 hour period of time.  Looking at over 13,000 patients, researchers found that eating any amount of dark chocolate decreased depressive symptoms by 70% over patients who did not consume chocolate in the previous 24 hours.  Oh my gosh… if I could give you a Rx drug that was 70% effective in taking away depressive symptoms for 24 hours, we’d literally all be fighting to get it, some might even advocate for putting it in our water supply, ha-ha.  Now imagine if this miracle drug tasted just like chocolate. Now imagine it wasn’t a drug at all and it was just simply chocolate itself. Wish come true, that’s what they found.
  • Supplement with Zinc —   In the December 15, 2013, the medical journal Biological Psychiatry published the results of a huge study that found that zinc supplementation can effectively reverse depression… and that zinc added to antidepressant therapy may produce more rapid and more effective improvement in symptoms of depression than without zinc supplementation.
  • Add Probiotics — The natural flora of the gut is diminished in depression, so restoring the natural vitality and variety of healthy organisms in the digestive tract is a very powerful way to improve outcome in depression. A study published on Nov 15, 2013 in Biological Psychiatry, showed decreased depression when participants received probiotic supplements for 30 days, and another study reported clinically significant improvement in mood when participants ate probiotic-containing yogurt for 3 weeks.
  • Consume Omega 3 Fatty Acids — shown in many different studies to impact brain health… from improving symptoms in ADHD, protecting brain volume as we age, and decreasing postpartum blues, omega fatty acids are a must have to soothe and support your entire body inside and out, from skin to brain.
  • Take Vit D — The link between low levels of Vit D and depression have long been established, but newer research suggests that Vitamin D supplements, taken for 12 weeks, can reverse depressed mood.  Most of us are Vit D deficient, so if you are experiencing depressed mood this is a great time to give Vit D supplements a try!  Read more about these medical studies here.
  • Sleep —  A study presented at the31st Annual Meeting of the Associated Professional Sleep SocietiesAbstract 0335 in June 2017 showed that patients who were medically treated for depression but did not sleep well were three times less likely to recover from depression, and that sleeping 7 hours or more nightly actually tripled the rates of full resolution of depression.  In the study, 62% of patients who received help for insomnia and got at least 7 hours of sleep nightly had their depression fully resolve, compared to 42% of patients sleeping 6 hours a night and only 18% of patients sleeping 5 hours a night. In other words, more sleep = higher chance of recovery in depression

 

2. Sadness

 

Sadness needs to physically flow through the body in order to release.  You must *feel* the sorrow.  Don’t try to resist it or put it off, instead get into the state of allowing the flow using this one simple trick: water.

Water is the ultimate medium of flow on earth, and comprises the majority of our body. In fact, water is the body’s natural choice of release as well, in the form of tears. Tears often help facilitate the flow of sorrow through the body and allows it to release more easily. So one tip is — allow the tears.  Let the water of your tears release your sorrow and lift it from your body.

Can’t cry?  You can still use the power of water to help facilitate the release of your sorrow, worry or grief:

  • Use a hot water bottle full of warm water and hold it on your body where you are feeling the sorrow (chest, abdomen, neck, back…) and breathe into the sensation
  • Take a long hot bath (add some baking soda and apple cider vinegar to turn it into a detoxing experience)
  • Sit in a warm shower and envision the water carrying your sorrow down the drain for you
  • Use steam/humidifiers to help hydrate your head, clearing out the old mental fog and allowing room for the new
  • Drink water — hydrate hydrate hydrate during times of worry or sorrow more than any other time of your life. Let your body be flushed out inside and out and with every urination or bowel movement recognize you are flushing the old energy down the drain and making way for new healing

 


 

 

3. Fatigue

 

The feeling of heavy fatigue or during grief means your body needs a break… NOW.  Not later.  You must to honor this sensation/symptom for the important information it is providing instead of ignoring or resisting it.
Fatigue and depression show up to alert us that we are in a time of healing/repair and not in a time of action.

Help it by:

  • Low intensity exercise — respect your body’s need to slow down. Now is not the time for strenuous exercise… honor caring for your body in gentle ways such as yoga, stretching, long slow walks through nature.
  • Get help — you don’t need to do it all alone. Ask for help. Call a friend. Lean on family to help with some of the burdens you are seeking relief from.  Flag down a neighbor and just simply and literally ask for help.
  • Passive body work. Your body needs to get into receiving mode and not giving mode. Your giving mode is burnt out. What I’ve noticed is that most people who struggle with fatigue are the givers who are giving to everybody but themselves. You DESERVE to give your body the message that there is a time to stop and receive. Get a massage, acupuncture, reiki, physical therapy, a facial, a haircut. Anything that is a passive process for you — let others actively help move that energy through your body and help you on your way to release it.
  • Deeper sleep at night… see below

 


 

 

4.  Sleeplessness

 

You absolutely, 100% NEED deep, restorative sleep!  It’s non-negotiable… poor sleep causes memory impairment, decreased life span, weight gain, worsened anxiety and other debilitating mood disturbances, increased risk of dementia and an increased incidence of Alzheimers, widespread brain atrophy and much much more!

Here are some ways to get that much needed, deep restorative sleep you absolutely NEED to make your way through the process of grief:

  • Grounding — connecting to the earth has been shown in sleep studies to increase the amount of time we spend in deep sleep, as well as treat jet lag and other circadian rhythm disturbances.  Sleeping with a grounding product will support your body’s healing process from head to toe, all night long… find my favorite indoor grounding products in my Grounding Boutique right here.
  • Melatonin — Taken as the sun sets (not 1 hour before bedtime as printed on the label, but whenever the sun actually, literally goes down — this is when it’s most biologically critical for your body to get a melatonin boost) allows sleep to be deeper and more restorative.
  • Daily activity — simply getting up every single hour of the waking day and walking for a bit (instead of spending several hours in a row inactive) just might be the best gift you could ever give your body.
  • Develop a nightly routine — turn off all the lights, make sure there are no computer screens or clock faces or nightlights lighting up the room while you sleep, and drink a soothing cup of warm milk, sleepytime tea, or take a hot bath to relax your body and transition into bed.  More on this in a blog post I wrote for you right here.
  • Sleep with an external source of warmth — we all have a deep seated, cellular need to be connected to others while we sleep — it comes from the caveman days of sleeping in groups to help increase survival. So especially if you have recently lost a spouse, a pet, or a loved one that you are used to sleeping with, insonmia might be a real struggle. Fulfill your instinct to sleep share by sleeping with a hot water bottle (the warmth provides that deep comfort your body is craving) or with a loved pet or pray to loved ones and angels to surround you as you sleep each night so you go to bed feeling connected and supported.

 


5. Anxiety

 

Anxiety is a very active state, where you have lots of energy building up inside, and the answer to this (as in all emotions) is to really allow the flow to open up and release it to find relief.

With the energetic state of anxiety you generally need to get into a more active state of allowing, in contrast to the passive allowing state required by sadness, grief, depression and fatigue.

Anxiety states respond to active release… so give some of these a try:

  • Meditation — this is a very active and aware state that puts you in the perfect open-but-alert mind-frame necessary for relief. Focus on taking 3 deep breaths in and out and choose a mantra for the in breathe and the out breath. If you can do 5 breaths, do 5. Work up to 10, 20, 50 breaths of focused openness:

breathing in: I am lovable
breathing out: I am loved
breathing in: I am safe
breathing out: I am taken care of by God
breathing in: I am protected
breathing out: I am healing

  • Movement and exercise — moving the body and quieting the mind is the goal of many gentle, healing practices such as yoga, tai chi, qigong. If your energy feels more intense and will not allow you to settle down enough to do those types of exercise, honor your body’s need for active processing by something a bit more intense like pilaties, karate, kick boxing, or going on a long jog.
  • Give to others — unlike depression and fatigue, the gift of anxiety is the gift of having energy to give and express… and one of the best way to off-gas this is to give to others in need. Volunteer at a cause that is meaningful to you, start a year of gratitude (doing one act of thankfulness to loved ones or strangers each week and record it in a gratitude journal) or just go out into the world each day asking that you be shown a way you can be of service. The point here is not to add any more stress into your life — do not do anything that doesn’t feel right. This is not a burden, it’s a very simple way to get rid of extra energy/tension. Consider doing simple things that don’t require a lot of preparation but will allow you to actively process and off gas extra energy. For example, walk along a road in your neighborhood and pick up litter for an hour after dinner. Pick up an extra pizza on your way home from work and give the extra one to a construction crew as you pass (this is my daughter’s favorite “gratitude attack”) or head to your local SPCA and take some of the dogs on a walk each weekend. In fact…
  • Care for a pet — caring for a pet is the perfect way to allow your energy to flow in a loving and active, yet low stress way. Simply walking your dog every day, spending 30 minutes petting your cat while she purrs on your chest, whistle to a pet bird and teach him your favorite TV show theme song… study after study has shown that pets improve our health simply by being in our lives. During times of anxiety and frustration, loving on a pet a little extra each day gives a heart-centered but simple way to open our heart chakras and allow excess energy to flow.

 


 

6.  Decreased appetite

 

It’s important to consume nutrient dense food even when your appetite is low-to-gone.  Your body needs healthy fats and protien in order to keep up it’s immune system and help get you through the intense and often exhausting grieving process.

Just when you don’t feel like eating at all is right when you need the nutritional support the most.  So here are three tips to help you stay healthy even when your appetite has left:

  • Hydrate — it’s really important to at least stay well hydrated during emotional times. Although you can go for days without eating, you can not survive for days without water. Drink non-fluoridated, fresh, filtered water and drink drink drink some more. If you simply you can’t eat a single bite… drink a glass of water and take a deep breath and stay well hydrated.
  • Gentle movement — while it is okay to want to curl up and not move while you are hurting, it’s also important to make sure you get gentle activity each day — going on a daily walk in nature is the best therapy. The movement stimulates gut perastalsis and will help gently nudge your appetite back into place.
  • Nutrient dense foods — when all you feel like eating is a few small bites, make every bite count. There is a reason folks deliver nourishing bone broths like chicken noodle soup to loved ones who aren’t feeling well… the healthy fats and minerals in bone broth is nurtirtionally sound and will help keep your immunity high (see side bar). Other options include easily digestible casseroles, stews, organic nuts and peanut butter (when my kids just don’t want to eat, we compromise on a scoop or two of organic peanut butter), healthy fats such as avadodo and coconut oil, organic yogurt, and organic butter (a comforting warm grilled cheese sandwhich with organic cheese and grilled in organic butter is wonderful, especially alongside a cup of bone broth!)

 

If your grief is particularly intense, lasting longer than a few months or accompanied by suicidal thoughts… or you simply want the support of a counsellor… be sure to seek professional help by a medical or mental health practitioner who is experienced in grief counseling.

There absolutely is a way to the other side of grief… you will get there… ask for help when you need to and healing will happen.

 

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With much love, faith, and encouragement to you in your healing journey… and happiness over the unconditional support that awaits us all when it is our turn to transition onwards…

xoxoxo, Laura